Friday, April 29, 2016

A Community In Waiting

This morning, as I sat on the lounge chari on my deck, I realized I needed support. I was reading a blog that I have recently discovered called We Are That Family. Kristen Welch is a Godley women with a huge heart and I have been blessed many times while reading her blog.  In a recent post she shared about some encouragement she received and listed some suggestions for other women, going through life challenges.

One of her suggestions was this-
"Surround yourself with a community of broken people who share a common journey (adoption, leadership, teenagers, toddlers)"

I realized I needed a community. One who shares in my journey of being a Christian women who is married to a man I am deeply in love with, a man who has Aspergers. I set out to find that community. I was sure it was out there. Aspergers is somewhat new to the disorder scean, but there is more being discovered about it everyday and the awareness is growing, so where is my community?

I found a few post on random sites, but most were outdated and not being maintained. I realize I don't have much room to talk, I stopped blogging years ago. I never found my voice, never found a community. Well if I can't find one, maybe I need to make one.

Are you out their ladies? Do you long to be a Godley wife, but sometimes struggle with your spouse's uniqueness? Do you need encouragement and someone who understands what it's like to live with the ups and downs of personality disorder?

I have no special knowledge or background in autism. I don't have a list of remidies to make your marriage better. I just have a desire to build a network of women how can support one another. I often feel like I have no one to turn to, when it comes to the struggles I face. Most people find it hard to understand where I'm coming from. It's hard enough to get people to understand your desire to be a Godley wife ("Why would you want to be submissive?") let alone the sacrifices that must be made to maintain a peaceful home, living with an Aspie.

If your out there, drop me a line. I'll be waiting.....

Wednesday, June 11, 2014


It's been a little while.

Life for me lately seems like an endless cycle of work, exercise, sleep, repeat. My weight loss efforts have been going well and at this point I have lost 25 pounds. During the last 5 months I have discovered a new found interest in health, nutrition and fitness. I feel like my weight is no longer something that is keeping me from victory and although people are noticing the changes, when I look in the mirror I just don't feel it.

I came across this video today rather by accident and it instantly brought tears to my eyes.

Women are courages and beautiful, no matter what they look like. I want to be fit and healthy but I also want to love this body that God gave me. I want every women to know that true beauty doesn't come from the outside but so few understand that...including myself.

I wanted to share this video today because it touched my heart. Im still pressing forward towards my fitness goals, but with more understanding. Every step along the way has taught me something new and today I learned that no matter how fit I am, I have to embrace every part of the women God made me or I will never be happy with how I look.

- Kristen

Thursday, May 1, 2014

Your Beautiful

Just a little reminder that you are beautiful and you are loved!

Friday, April 25, 2014

Confessions of a Closet Christian

I have been a Christian all my life. It's something that is apart of me literally; my name means "Believer in Christ". As a young girl, I would never hesitate to talk about what happened? The boldness I had when I was younger has been replaced with a need to be accepted.

In all honesty I have allowed myself to be a victim of insecurity. You see I care what people think of me, I always have. I don't want to offend, upset or make anyone feel uncomfortable. I'm not sure if you have ever read about Jesus or his time on earth, but let's just say he was the complete opposite, a perfect mix of rebel and redeemer. He healed and loved people, but he challenged and angered them too.

I think a big part of my hesitation is the fear that if I were to speak boldly about Christ, I would instantly be thought of as "closed minded" and nothing I said or did would be taken seriously. Christian's have gotten a bad reputation (in some cases rightly so) for some pretty hateful things done "In the name of Jesus" over the years.

But staying in the closet isn't going to change that negative perception. Only living a life as instructed by God's word, a life of love, kindness and humility, will ever be able to change what people may think about Christians.

So I think it's time for me to come out of the closet. I will make mistakes, but luckily God can even use mistakes to show His mercy and forgiveness.